One way to get better at this, when you think there might be an interaction you are not sure of, is to run a response by someone you trust who seems to be better at it. Think of them like a coach or buddy. Write up what you want to say, send it privately to your coach/buddy and see if they have any suggestions.
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Yeah, dudeâŚyouâre toast! Chuckle! 
(loving tease)
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Yeah, that doesnât really work for the amount of posting that I do here. Otherwise, I no longer write anything longer than a check (Only wrote two of those in 3 months).
Somebody called me an âInsensitive Asshatâ on the forum about a month ago. Canât remember who. Showed the post to the wife because I thought it was a great pairing of words. Just had a sound I liked. The wife said âyou do realize that was intended to be insultingâ? No matter how I looked at the post, those two words still tickled me.
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the only right way to interpret internet conversationsâŚ
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Who called you an insensitive asshat? 
(Oh waitâŚyou said you couldnât rememberâŚnever mindâŚ)
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Yeah, spelling and grammar apps pretty well cover my dyslexia, donât think thereâs an app for not having a feel for tone.
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Wasnât an issue. The wife agreed with him, but qualified, at least I donât try to be that way.
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Well, the rest of us donât have an excuse. 
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So I just searched and this thread is the only one with the word asshat in it. Guess the other thread was maybe edited or something? 
It does sound vaguely familiar though.
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Or a PM
I do appreciate how others get to dictate what you meant in absolute terms these days.
Iâm kinda in the same boat as @rpegg. I donât mean it that way with the 7 layers of insult, I mean it exactly the literal way I wrote it. But itâs my fault for not making myself more clear. Itâs also my fault for not understanding youâŚ?! Huh? Many an argument over that double standard and the mental gymnastics it takes to rationalize that into no being a double standard is astonishing.
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Yeah, the refund comments shouldnât be used as a way to shun someone. I try not to jump the gun and respond to quickly to posts that initially rub me the wrong way. (Not that I always succeed.) I try and remember the âone freebieâ rule and take into account we all make emotional posts and blow off steam now and then. Or that maybe someone is asking the same basic question thatâs been answered a hundred times becasue they are just super excited like the rest of us. That being said, if someone continues to making false statements or just keeps poking the bear to illicit a response etc., I figure itâs fair to respond. There is a balance though.
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I agree with you 100%. Itâs used way too often in a dismissive way. They know they can cancel. They know theyâll get their money back. It doesnât have to be said again and again.
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Probably flagged and deleted.
I was amused by this, as it is so uncharacteristic of you to exaggerate (de-zaggerate?). 
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Well, the comments âI may lose my moneyâ, âthey might take the money and runâ, etc seem to belie that. It may just be hyperbole, but it also keeps coming up, despite that GF has stated again and again that the money for operations is not our money, and that our money is in a pot somewhere safe (bank).
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Actually, I was being literal. Surprised? It was a back door way of saying that I can get my money back (at least as of now) without saying it. Agree that those words seem to be a hot button with many so wasnât going to use the line.
As far as the money being in a separate account⌠A few seem to think that Dan is Bernie Madoff. So if you are wired that way, then the money is not safe. But then why ask is my money safe? Not at all discounting feelings or their right to be angry, just canât grasp the logic of hanging on.
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GF has stated a lot of things again and again that turned out to be not true. I think they probably wont go bust but Dan not confirming their finances are sound doesnât help confidence. They started off with a lot of money but we have no idea of their burn rate and cash flow, or their future profitability.
So while I donât think anybody will lose money at the moment I wouldnât shout down somebody that thinks there is some risk.
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Exactly. Get your money back.
See thatâs a more nuanced and logical argument, and that argument is less prone to get a âwell go cancel and get your money backâ vs. the âitâs a scamâ argument.
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You can chalk this one up to the fallout of the long history of securities fraud in the US. Anything a CEO (or other corporate officer) says about the future financial state of their company is a âforward-looking statementâ and triggers a long list of FNL requirements. Thatâs why so many corporate press releases come with as much disclaimer as news. So for Dan to say something confirmatory would trigger either potential legal liability (which, as we know, GF is near-paranoid about avoiding) or come with a bunch of legal boilerplate at the bottom of the post that would mostly negate any reassuring effect. (In addition to costing international-shipping-grade time and money)
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If that is the case then BTW I am 100 