Hmm, that does sound pretty intro lol. I guess I think I’m both becasue I’m extremely comfortable talking to people and confident in it. I can be the life of the party and gregarious when I choose, I just choose not too for the most part. It’s probably due in large part by my work in law enforcement though; after spending all day dealing with people and their problems, I’m done with humanity. There’s actually interesting research that shows that folks in jobs like LE suffer from an unnatural/high amount of sustained cortisol release and it has a real accumulative negative impact on their mental and physical well being. Basically, LE types experience so much sustained stress hormone during their work day that they tend to isolate themselves when off work and their brains and body “shut off” to cope with the cortisol. It’s a factor in the astronomical divorce rate and high suicide rate and it even has an effect on how LE types gain weight. It causes fat stores around the middle and makes for a lot of fat guts. All the donuts don’t help either.
Psst…you’re an introvert. We are perfectly capable of being social and outgoing. It just tires us out faster than solo time.
This is exactly why I thought it would be interesting to track the responses over time.
I have a cigar and a scotch and a free evening. I’m by myself as usual on a Sunday night. But I am catching up on my Glowforge forum and posting away.
Honestly, I think Jungian archetypes are a great narrative. Obviously they have some amazing resonance.
But breaking it down, everyone makes a fundamental category error. It’s all a nice bell curve.
As usual, well said.
I don’t think the categorizations are useful for putting people in boxes. To me, they are a reminder of all the subtle differences that make interactions unique. The confusion around introversion is a great example. People deny being introverts because of negative stereotypes around being anti-social or shy. But if you get to the root of things and understand that it’s just a matter of energy, it’s helpful to know about yourself and others. My husband hardly speaks when he’s out unless he’s with a few specific kindred spirits. I pick up the slack and handle all the social niceties. He’d rather stab forks in his eyes than speak in public and I have been a speaker at large conferences and at a march on Washington. But when it comes down to it, I’m far more likely to hit my introvert wall than he is, even from interactions at home. But we understand each other and when the kids go to bed each night, we decide together whether we want to be together or have a solo evening. Understanding those finer points without trapping someone by them is what makes for the closest of relationship, whether you have the language to define them or not.
Definitely useful to know and understand about ourselves and people around us, and yes, it’s all a continuum. My husband is a more extroverted introvert than I am; he’s retired and goes a little crazy if he doesn’t get out among other people a couple of times each week, whereas I would be perfectly happy to stay home and never go anywhere.
People enjoy all kinds of activities that drain energy, so it’s certainly no surprise that there are introverts who are outgoing, engaging, etc. I’m a solid introvert, but especially enjoy opportunities to speak on things I’m passionate and knowledgable about to individuals, small groups, large groups, whatever. I’m one of those weird people that actually rather likes public speaking – I just need down time afterward and don’t want to overdo the frequency.
Now the question is “how do our percentages stack up against the world/<insert home country> at large?”
Anyone know any current data about this same question, how people self identify?
Introverts make up somewhere between 16 and 50% of the population.
How about that…I am an introvert.
I’m sorry, I thought you knew.
Apparently not a self-aware one.
That’s a pretty good article. Thanks for sharing.
Belated thanks for the birthday wishes!
Truth is… there are interesting and intelligent people offline as well. Extroverts are more likely to go out there and find them by taking classes, joining a makerspace, etc. Introverts get a lot of the interaction they need in online spaces where we can skip the small talk if we want, take time to formulate answers, and sneak out if we’re done with the conversation.
And I completely agree with @geek2nurse about online vs. offline personalities. I was once at a (blogging) press event with people I had only met online. We were broken into groups and I ended up with some folks whose personalities online were larger than life. I thought the PR person must have lost her mind to group us all together and wondered if they’d make it through the tour with the antics that were on the horizon. Turned out they were all super quiet and chill in person. It was only later that I realized that blogging draws an extremely high percentage of introverts and that yo can’t judge a book by it’s online avatar. Or something. Also, I’m still friends with most of those women today!
Oh, wait… that’s different.
So much introvert it took 3 days to get the energy to respond here.
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