Take the risks! What’s the worst that can happen?! It’s all about the confidence. I’m not saying that the confidence is real or anything. At least not in my case. There were many times when I thought “There’s no way this is going to work.” But I made my effort, feigning a hint confidence the entire time, and nobody has been more surprised than I at the results.
Fact is, I’m below average height (5’7"), average looks and build. I’ve tried to make up for those by projecting confidence even when even I think it’s unwarranted. It also helps that I play piano and sing. (Both of which I do well-enough to get by.) But it really works! It sounds crazy, I know! But it totally works. Ultimate example is my wife was engaged to somebody else when we met. In fact, they even got married! I almost gave up. Heck, who wouldn’t?! But I didn’t. And we’ve been married for over 11 years now.